In business and in life people appreciate authenticity. Ralph Waldo Emerson said, “To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else, is the greatest accomplishment.” Similarly, Abraham Lincoln said, “Whatever you are, be a good one.” Both of these quotes are easier to live by if you are in touch with who you are and what you do.
One complaint employees have is working for a boss who is not genuine. You know the type – the boss who pretends to know more than he knows, pretends to lead better than he can, or pretends to make better decisions than he is capable of, and the list goes on and on. Whoever encouraged people to, “Fake it till you make it!” was a fool. Faking does not get you there, wherever there might be, it gets you in the habit of pretending to be something you are not.
If you are not all the things you want to be in your roll as a boss there are things you can do to improve, and faking it is not among them. The things you can do are sometimes pricey, especially if you want to make progress quickly, but they are worth it. There are some more cost-effective alternatives but the progress is typically slow, if at all. For example, you can purchase a book or two, or three, or four… and there are some good ones out there. The problem with purchasing a book is once you have it you have to read it. And you have to read it actively, taking the advice and implementing the suggestions of the author. At least some of them.
Okay then, here is a quick run-down of what you can do to refine your boss skills.
~ Attend a seminar. If you don’t live in an area where there are good seminars, attend a teleseminar or webinar. Online stuff is great because you can attend from the comfort of your home, car, or even the lavatory if that’s your thing. Oh yeah, that’s smooth.
~ Attend local business events. You can usually find something locally such as a Men’s or Women’s Expo. These types of events typically have national speakers who have much to offer to those who are willing to learn.
~ Hire a coach, advisor, or mentor. This is one of the best practices if you want to get on the fast track to improvement. It can be costly but you can sometimes get your employer to foot the bill, particularly if it will benefit his or her business. If you are the employer, well then, maybe you can ask your employees to foot the bill.
~The big one: Acknowledge that you have something to learn. Even the best bosses can learn something and have areas that need improvement. It is arrogant to assume that you were born knowing it all and have refined it by yourself. Some of the top people in the world have hired professional help including such people as Oprah Winfrey and Michael Jordan. People who have reached out for help will tell you that their careers took off when they hired a coach, advisor or mentor. Top talent also typically has bookshelves filled with material written by thought leaders in a variety of areas including leadership, motivation, and goal setting/achievement.
One of the best things you can do is implement a blend of the above suggestions and include others that are not listed. The more input you have from the greatest array of people, the more likely you are to find a path that works for you. Be genuine. Leave ‘fake it till you make it’ for people who probably never will.
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