Hello and welcome! I’m Shari, AKA “Doc,” and I am a coaching psychologist and instructor at Grand Canyon University. For years I did what I could to make myself small because I did not want to be noticed. I tried to be as invisible as possible, avoided public events, refused invitations or found reasons to not attend gatherings, and found dark, dusty corners to sit in when I did go someplace. I shut down emotionally because I thought that I did not deserve to be happy. I spent years not caring if I was happy, because I believed I didn’t matter and to me, it didn’t. ‘Happy’ was not even on my radar.
I was angry, miserable, felt worthless, undeserving, and wanted to crawl in a hole and be left alone. And I was alone… and lonely. Years of blaming others for how I felt and searching for a way to end the pain, led to nothing but anguish and heartache. But then, 19 years ago, I sought help and slowly, sometimes excruciatingly slowly, I began to find my way out of that dark place I had created. As the anger dissipated it was largely replaced with nothingness – no emotion, just nothing.
Four years ago, I worked with a brilliant coach who helped me realize that I had lost touch with positive emotions. I had spent so much time being miserable that I forgot how to be happy. Together we found ways for me to get back in touch with positive emotions; with feeling good. I am still a work in progress, but the worst of it is behind me. I found my way out of that dark, lonely place, and now I help others do the same. I don’t want it to take you 19 years to fully emerge and find your way to a more productive, fulfilling, and happy life. It will take time, of course, to find your way, but it does not have to take nearly two decades!
Today I embrace the path that brought me here. It was my journey, and while I wish things had been different, and that I had not spent so much time in despair, I have no regrets. I love where I’m at, who I am, and I now face life renewed and courageous, eager for what lies around the next corner!
Education and Training:
PhD, Organizational Psychology, Capella University
MS, Organizational Psychology, Walden University, 2009
BS, Math Education, University of Wyoming, 1993
BS, Research Psychology, University of Wyoming, 1989
Core Essentials Program, Coach U, graduate 2010
APA – American Psychological Association
APAGS – American Psychological Association for Graduate Students
SIOP – Society of Industrial and Organizational Psychologists
IPPA – International Positive Psychology Association
Meditation, family, fitness, philosophy, yoga, Pilates, weightlifting, reading, people, education, listening to my sons, photography and graphic arts design, writing, psychological research, the Russian language and culture, and anything my kids are doing.
“Don’t let the best you have done so far be the standard for the rest of your life.” G. F. Swift